Monthly Archive: September 2016


Reaching the Heart

I had a therapist tell me one time, “Your instincts are spot on, why do you disregard them?” I was walking in circles in a parking lot waiting to pick my son up from an event when I called her. I was upset at the actions of someone I had let in my life. I was being a friend to this person but ignoring the red flag of not being given the same type of courtesy. Yes, that is the issue. There were red flags. I knew there were character flaws present. More than once this gal had bullied through...



  My youngest kid asked me “Why?,” again. My parenting adventure started twenty-one years ago and I have probably been asked that question a thousand-plus times. Sometimes it is just goofy stuff, such as “Why do I have to use a napkin, when my shirt is so close?” or “Why do I need a glass when the bottle is practically empty?”or “Why can’t I pee in the yard?” “Why, why, why?” I’m good with answering questions, which is part of my job as a parent.  One skill I’ve tried to learn is when to say, “You already know why my...



This summer I’ve had a few requests for rainbow-colored hair from my kids friends. I don’t work in the cosmetology field as I’m allergic to 80% of the products. However, I do periodically help my friends and family with a new cut or color as my schedule allows. Personally, I can’t stand the idea of rainbow-colored hair. But I love the Moms who do their best to give kids agency. Agency, the capacity to make choices. Parenting is quite a hard-line to walk. We desire to give kids a deep sense of security and identity. Security walks the line between...