Monthly Archive: July 2017


To the Pain

The writer Mark Manson makes a good point when he talks about success in life. He says: “What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.” He lays out how this question needs to be answered for success in the blog: ( Shakespeare reminds us that there is some...



“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.” John Wooden My family and I were long time members of a church before our eyes were opened to the dark under belly that ruled. We saw people come and go over the years but were never close enough to keep track of those who left. Interestingly, most that were well-known left with a whiff of gossip following them, that portrayed them in a negative light. Little did I know that we would...



“The moment that you feel that just possibly you’re walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind and what exists on the inside, showing too much of yourself, that’s the moment you may be starting to get it right.” Neil Gaiman. As a reformed perfectionist, I went to great lengths while raising my children to show them that mistakes are a part of life. It was a fine line to walk, because at some point they all started to think that the excuse, “I forgot,” was a “get out of jail free” card. I...