Category: Heartache

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  “The presence of pain is not the absence of love.”  William Paul Young Trying to comfort someone in the face of a great loss, I could only cry with her. Wanting to speak kindly as I left I could only say, “Just keep crying.” You know why? Because there is nothing else that can be done. He can’t be brought back. The house will never be the same again. The home will never be the same. The bed will never be the same. All the thousands of details of sharing her life with her spouse… Gone. The love he...

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To Hell with Loneliness

I recently found out that the areas of what I thought were water damage on my fantastic 1970’s T111 siding is not water damage but carpenter ants. I looked up information on the buggers. Did you know that lonely ants die young and hungry? That is the title of an article I happened upon. My carpenter ants are already dead because I got the pest control guys to poison them, so no worries there. Anyway it got me thinking about loneliness and I started waking up with the Bee Gees song “Lonely Days” looping in my ears so I must...

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Walking through Pain

My friend Zach sent me a fun quote from “The Ref.” I think it was a series with Dennis Leary, so … “Welcome to the real world where most of the time things don’t go your fucking way.” The Ref Reminds me of another conversation I was having about pain. Physical pain. Emotional pain. What is it about humans that we (or some of us?) seem to need pain to grow? You’ve probably all heard stories about various illnesses that have caused someone to lose his pain signals. You know, where one gets physically hurt but can’t feel it, so...