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Reasons

Have you ever heard the expression, “everything happens for a reason?”  How about, “God is in control?”  Maybe the proponents of maxims such as these have good intent.  In fact, maybe that is why they are spread so far and wide without a resounding outcry.  Dollars to doughnuts, if you are a person in pain for any reason, your heart will at first balk and then swallow this bitter pill.  I say you will “swallow it” because (especially if you have caused your own pain, as we all do, many times!) this formula will make shame arise like a Phoenix....

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Changes

I read this analogy once that was in an article meant for parents with special needs children.  It said something to the effect of:  Imagine you have scheduled a long vacation to Sweden. You packed all the right stuff.  You scheduled your places to stay and made plans for places to visit once you arrive.  You tried to prepare for every detail for your adventure.  But something happened, and when you landed, you were not in Sweden, you landed in Norway. What will you do? Will you pretend everything is as planned and you really ARE in Sweden?  Will you...

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Perfectionism

I have a bone to pick with all of my conservative friends that like to say to me, “nobody is perfect.”  Not really all of them, just the ones that use that phrase and don’t really believe it.  Why bother saying it if then you are going to tell me that I shouldn’t….cuss, drink, smoke, listen to certain types of music, wear certain types of clothes, associate with certain types of people, raise my kids in a certain way, skip school, spend credit, eat cake, wear makeup, drive fast, or gain weight? The same bone is alive and kicking with...