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Universally particular

When my first son was in his late teens I remember telling him that his pre-frontal cortex probably wouldn’t be fully developed until he was 24 or so.  A lot of my parenting was based on the notion that it was my job to give my kids the truth in all forms as well as I knew it. My explanation on his brain development seemed to me no different than a friend telling a friend to call an Uber if they are impaired. The pre-frontal cortex is a pretty big deal as a jumping off point for rationality. I’m plenty...

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Shifting

I don’t downshift very fast, meaning I’m not dumb, but I am a slow processor. I never made the “A” classes in my early schooling and thought I had something missing. I won’t be the first one to pick up spilled milk, or swerve from the squirrel, or really understand my own feelings until a day or two after I have felt them. I forget this a lot too. It hit me the hardest after having children, as soon as I figured out one stage they slipped into the next one. But I did understand rather quickly that I wanted...

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The Thing

So, I had a thing. A thing I didn’t want to do, but kept being told, “Ya gotta do this.” At some point I came to agreement with my advisors and I did it. So, it’s turned out fabulous, but my question today is, was it really something I needed to do earlier? Or is it working out because I was ready to do it? Because the timing was right?  I’ve decided that the thing is not the thing. Now I have a new thing. It’s in the realm of “cutting losses,” which is something my personality rebels against. Just...