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Why?

  My youngest kid asked me “Why?,” again. My parenting adventure started twenty-one years ago and I have probably been asked that question a thousand-plus times. Sometimes it is just goofy stuff, such as “Why do I have to use a napkin, when my shirt is so close?” or “Why do I need a glass when the bottle is practically empty?”or “Why can’t I pee in the yard?” “Why, why, why?” I’m good with answering questions, which is part of my job as a parent.  One skill I’ve tried to learn is when to say, “You already know why my...

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Agency

This summer I’ve had a few requests for rainbow-colored hair from my kids friends. I don’t work in the cosmetology field as I’m allergic to 80% of the products. However, I do periodically help my friends and family with a new cut or color as my schedule allows. Personally, I can’t stand the idea of rainbow-colored hair. But I love the Moms who do their best to give kids agency. Agency, the capacity to make choices. Parenting is quite a hard-line to walk. We desire to give kids a deep sense of security and identity. Security walks the line between...

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Wholeness

I work at home so spend a lot of time maintaining the space.  I also have three boys, almost men, in-house.  Perpetual rearranging is an essential activity. Last week’s project was to remove an old desk that was attached to the wall. It was too bulky for the current needs. Sadly, where I thought the two-by-twos were nailed up, they were screwed into the wall. Choice words were thrown my way when I cried for help from one available teen. “Bleep, bleep, bleep, Mom, what have you done now?” Once we got it all down, there were serious holes in...