Monthly Archive: March 2016

Expectations

I was chatting with a friend the other day about where relationships sometimes go sideways. The conversation wasn’t really about relationships, per se, but expectations in relationships. William Shakespeare said, “the root of all heartache is expectations.”    I don’t think the Bard is too far off.  Yet, choosing to live assuming nothing good will ever come?  I’d guess a walk like that would require one to lock the heart up tight and close it off to the possibility of joy.  I’d rather walk into the pain that life and love inevitably bring, by making an attempt to focus on...

Nuance

I told my brother-in-law that I don’t like universal statements because they all break down at some point. He said, “you just made one.” Wow. So as much as I am guilty of it, I still don’t like them and will work to stop repeating them. I came across a Wayne Dyer quote online the other day and it did not sit right with me. It reads, “Everything you do is based on the choices you make. It’s not your parents, your past relationships, your job, the economy, the weather, an argument, or your age that is to blame. You...

Results

We are such a results-oriented people. I don’t necessarily think it’s a bad thing to be working for “results” in all areas of life. I do think everyone needs to make conscious decisions of what type of results we really value. As a young Mom, I was inundated with tips for parenting. Not to mention all the ideas I had absorbed from my family of origin, as we all do. At some point I had to just stop. Stop reading, stop being afraid of screwing up, stop believing that if only I followed this or that specific parenting method, my...