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I love it when an adult child says, “Mom, you gotta help me with this dilemma!” It’s awesome to be trusted in that way. It sucks for him that I can’t actually help the way I always have with say, finding lost shoes, giving a ride, making a killer dessert. Those times I can do it for him. In some cases, he has to decide how he “feels” on the subject and what he thinks and what path he will take to deal with it. When we were chatting, I shared an example of what I would call “emotional dishonesty”...


Walking through Pain

My friend Zach sent me a fun quote from “The Ref.” I think it was a series with Dennis Leary, so … “Welcome to the real world where most of the time things don’t go your fucking way.” The Ref Reminds me of another conversation I was having about pain. Physical pain. Emotional pain. What is it about humans that we (or some of us?) seem to need pain to grow? You’ve probably all heard stories about various illnesses that have caused someone to lose his pain signals. You know, where one gets physically hurt but can’t feel it, so...


Mouths of Babes

My thirteen year-old child told me the reason math should not be a part of his school curriculum is in the “nature of what they ask you to do.” He said that anything that directs you with “problems to solve” is a bad idea. It tickled me so much I just told him that he needed to channel Vanilla Ice and played the song for him. The one where he sings, “If there is a problem, Yo, I’ll solve it.” I’m afraid he wasn’t terribly amused but he did finish his math lesson. Reminds me of his response to me,...