Modern Love

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6 Responses

  1. Sharon says:

    Love this! Good food for thought even for “long marrieds.”

    • Jill says:

      Thank you for commenting ladies. I wrote this last year and now am thinking about expanding on it further, as it got a lot of response.

  2. Kathy says:

    Ideals are the stumbling blocks to relationships and often what keeps us from opening our mouths and declaring the truth about ourselves and others. Tearing away ideal facades wounds us, but also heals us. Taking out the splinter often hurts, but once it is out, you will begin to feel better.

  3. Nate says:

    I had some friends who were struggling through their marriage, living under many of the “roles” and expectations of traditional evangelical marriages.

    They had this firm belief that they would never get a divorce, but after going through therapy, they came to the conclusion that divorce would have to be an option if they were going to become healthy people. For them, the option of divorce was actually what changed the health of their marriage.

    Who knows? I don’t know if there’s an answer, but I think you hit the nail on the head: the expectations and baggage that come along with traditional marriage and dating ideologies can be incredibly unhealthy.

  4. Clarke says:

    The first paragraph reminded me of where I was in 1989 and part of 1990. I was completely smitten with someone and was convinced God had planned her to be my life partner. She did not see it the same way however, and I was completely disillusioned and extremely depressed for about a year. I think that we do need to stop letting religious “experts” have to much say in our lives, if that makes sense.