Author: Jill

Heartache

To Hell with Loneliness

I recently found out that the areas of what I thought were water damage on my fantastic 1970’s T111 siding is not water damage but carpenter ants. I looked up information on the buggers. Did you know that lonely ants die young and hungry? That is the title of an article I happened upon. My carpenter ants are already dead because I got the pest control guys to poison them, so no worries there. Anyway it got me thinking about loneliness and I started waking up with the Bee Gees song “Lonely Days” looping in my ears so I must...

Parenting

Chats

I love it when an adult child says, “Mom, you gotta help me with this dilemma!” It’s awesome to be trusted in that way. It sucks for him that I can’t actually help the way I always have with say, finding lost shoes, giving a ride, making a killer dessert. Those times I can do it for him. In some cases, he has to decide how he “feels” on the subject and what he thinks and what path he will take to deal with it. When we were chatting, I shared an example of what I would call “emotional dishonesty”...

Heartache

Walking through Pain

My friend Zach sent me a fun quote from “The Ref.” I think it was a series with Dennis Leary, so … “Welcome to the real world where most of the time things don’t go your fucking way.” The Ref Reminds me of another conversation I was having about pain. Physical pain. Emotional pain. What is it about humans that we (or some of us?) seem to need pain to grow? You’ve probably all heard stories about various illnesses that have caused someone to lose his pain signals. You know, where one gets physically hurt but can’t feel it, so...