Author: Jill

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Shifting

I don’t downshift very fast, meaning I’m not dumb, but I am a slow processor. I never made the “A” classes in my early schooling and thought I had something missing. I won’t be the first one to pick up spilled milk, or swerve from the squirrel, or really understand my own feelings until a day or two after I have felt them. I forget this a lot too. It hit me the hardest after having children, as soon as I figured out one stage they slipped into the next one. But I did understand rather quickly that I wanted...

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Fair Game

I am 50 and single and triggered by bullshit, so, fair warning. Plus I have gathered quite a few other people’s quotes to help me explain myself.   I was planning to write on love and somehow it morphed into fairness.  Makes me think of the phrase, “All’s fair in love and war.”  Sadly, I detest that saying.  Some friends and I in a single’s group were spit-balling on love and relationships.  One of those members is Lisa Mickey, a fellow armchair philosopher.  She once gave me a great checklist of what she looks for in a dating relationship.  She...

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Yin/Yang

Don’t you hate it when you bump up against someone who is judgmental, close-minded and opinionated!? Oh damn, that was me. Yesterday. Some innocent bystanders bumped up against me. I was judgmental, close-minded and opinionated. Now, I could hate myself for it, and I really want to but what good would that do? The incomparable poetry of Mary Oliver came to my mind. “You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what...